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Devoted to the ideal of eternal marriage,
even when a spouse does not accept LDS beliefs.
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cojo
Joined: 30 Aug 2008
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Oh, and I'm due the 9th (but measuring 5 days ahead) 
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tiffrose
Joined: 21 Feb 2010
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Location: UT
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Some other great inspirations are --mormonstories.org pod cast with Jacque, She is actually the one who lead me here
Since I joined I have been able to vent about all that lead to where I am now, the advise to me and others was very helpful. And now I feel I am in a healthier place for dealing with this.
I love Dr Wally's article called the problem with divorce; it is a great inspiration about the importance of eternal marriage, and that through the atonement we can do what seems impossible. | Quote: | | http://www.drwally.org/thriving-in-marriage/the-problem-with-divorce/ |
I have gained new perspective. through reading on FE, ensigns, scriptures. I feel God is guiding me to realize when I do the best I can with-in the perimeters I am allowed, then God will accept that I did my best.
I gave up hope of my dh retuning to the church. Hoping just brought tears. It is more important to accept things how they are and love him the way he is.
It is very important for you to learn what you absolutely need to hold onto. Right now you are still able to take the kids to church, feel grateful for that, he may try to change it. try to get prepared for what is coming, and what are your options.
my agreement with my dh is in writing, and thus harder to change. But that came after many abrupt changes for me. Maybe you can write something that says how things stand and that is how they will stay (children going to church, what can(t) be taught at home, no bad mouthing each-other or eachother's beliefs to the kids, music, church activities, church callings, displays of religious beliefs in the home, R rated movies in the home, WoW issues in home, tithing...)
maybe this is something you can both work on together when communication is open (maybe with aid of counseling) then both sign it. Right now it sounds like 16 baptism would be on it.
the point is, you will both probably have issues you will not want to bend on, So be thinking about what is most important to you. It may seem like an agreement no one likes but it is something you can both live with. this is really hard, but hopefully by doing this at the beginning you will be able to know where things stand and be able to accept it. and he will have a harder time keep changing the rules to his way of believing.
someone said what they did was each person wrote their ideal situation on index cards. then brought up the conflicting cards. sometimes they kept one persons card, or the other, but most of the time they wrote a new card. your son is old enough, you may be able to do this in a family counsel setting too. |
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